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I'm a very insecure girl... any advice?

I've been insecure ever since I turned a teenager. Always have I thought I was ugly and fat. People tell me I'm beautiful and attractive. And my family calls me gorgeous. But I don't understand... why can't I see that? Every time I look in the mirror, all I see is an ugly witch. I'm not a witch in personality, but I see my large nose. Trust me, I look like a pig. I see a chubby face when I look at myself, and then that's where my nose comes in. Most people call me the most insecure girl they've ever known. How do I get over this and convince myself that I am beautiful?
 Mecksey posted sa loob ng isang taon na ang nakalipas
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jester616 said:
This is kind of cliched, but most people have a feature that they're insecure about, but no one else notices. Having written that, if most people are telling you that you're good looking, you probably are. We're not really socialized to think highly about ourselves--I'm sure you're familiar with the self-hate that young women engage in. We older women do it too.

It's not easy to get over this, but one of the best pieces of payo I've ever read is this: would you speak this way to a beloved friend/family member? No!! Try to stop doing it to yourself. Instead of thinking of having a big nose, think of it as a nose, or a nose with character, or whatever. I have a big nose as well, and I used to hate it too. Now I like it because it is a connection to my heritage.

It's not easy; I've been where you've been, but it's not worth it to hate the way you look. Trust me, you are madami beautiful than you think you are.
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Thanks for your advice! It made me feel a bit better. I understand what you're saying. I'll try to listen to what I've been told. But you're right, it's not easy.(:
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izzyblackberry said:
i was like that once but all i can say is everyone is butful and people who say u arnt r jelose haters.all u need is the confidence to belve ur butiful becuse its not always looks that makes a person butful its the personalty
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cparty721 said:
Its ok sometimes i think everyone feels like that. :) just get a makeover so you feel beautiful like you are.
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