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I don't know a good tanong to ask so lemme say this: Me and my boyfriend are thinking about having sex.

I read Cinder's artikulo (How Maturity Leads To Good Sex, or something similar) and I considered all these questions.
1) Are you having sex just for the sake of having sex?
2) Are you having sex because you were pressured into having sex?
3) Does the idea of buying condoms make you uncomfortable?
4) Do you think that you can't get pregnant on your period?
5) Can you talk to your partner-- without laughing-- about sex? This includes what you like about sex, and the things your partner does well, and the things s/he could improve on.
6) Have you thought about ways to make the experience memorable?
7) Have you gotten tested for STDs, or gone to a doctor for a physical lately?
8) Do you want your partner to have just as good an experience as you do, or do you not care?

If you answered "Yes" on any of the 1-4 questions, or if you answered "No" on any of the 5-8 questions, then you are not mature enough to have great sex. If you chose "No" on all of 1-4, and if you chose "Yes" on all of 5-8, then congratulations! You're a mature adult who can make his/her own decisions. Hooray!
I agree with all these so I asked my boyfriend them as well. The only tanong we got "wrong" (we got all the same answers) was tanong 7. I ASSURE you all we are both virgins and I am on the pill and we have condoms. I care about him and believe I do in fact pag-ibig him. The only thing is that I'm 14 and he's 16. He sinabi he wanted to wait a while but then changed his mind and I don't want either of us to have sex til we're both ready. I think that he'd take care of me and I wouldn't have the emotional baggage associated with sex. But I'd like the opinion of older, madami experienced people. Minus the age, I think I'm ready. Just give me your opinion please. Thankies :)
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And he and I have discused this. He says "If you are ready then we will." Hes not pushing me, I want ya'll to know that.
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SouthParkSmart said:
I think you are being very mature about this in considering Cinders' tanong and using birth control. I know you want a non-virgin perspective, and I apologize, and you may think I'm just mapait because I "can't get laid". But I would strongly advise against it. I just cannot morally tell you that it would be okay for you to have sex.

Please don't take offense to this, but you're fourteen, and you may not be able to see the consequenses clearly at this point. Psychology has shown us that the human mind is not fully developed until we are in our mid-twenties, and that's why teenagers do things that seem okay at the time, but don't consider the consequenses.

Think about this: would you be ready to deal with an unexpected pregnancy? I know you sinabi you are both virgins, but from my understanding, there are other ways of aquiring STD's not necessarily from sex. These are realities you may have to face. I would not want this to happen to a sweet, careful person like you, but it is possible.
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Thanks for your payo :)
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You're welcome!
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And hey, if I end up regreting it, I know I can talk to him and he'll make me feel better and we won't do it again :)
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bri-marie said:
If you feel you and your boyfriend are ready, and you're sure are ready to deal with the consequences, if any come up, then I don't see why not. You seem to have a pretty good idea of how you feel and what a sexual relationship entails.

The only problem I can see is that, depending on where you live, you could be under the age of consent and he's over the age (or at the age - generally the age of consent is between fifteen and sixteen). It could cause problems if either of your parents aren't okay with it.
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Thanks :)
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Haha, I'm not very good at calculating things like that. From what I've heard, the chances are fairly low. But things do happen and there is a chance.
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I understand that. But I think chances are low, and just this once we'll be fine.
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kittencutie119 said:
Honestly hon i would wait. you are just 14. and yea you are on the pill and you have condoms but neither are 100%. The condom could breack and the pill takes a while to settle in. considering waiting.
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I've been on for four months.
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fine get pregnant i just didnt want you to be in the hospita;l at 14 and being the most sick youve ever been.
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i agree. wait at least until marriage.
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lilith84 said:
If you feel you're ready, but only if you really want it then your age shouldn't matter. But I can't stess enough only if you really feel you are ready. Be sure, be prepered (condoms are always a nessesity, virgin or not, pill or not - better ligtas than sorry). And you both have to make sure the other has a memorable experince, meaning, lots and lots of foreplay, no rush and comunnication! If you don't like something, something makes you feel pain etc. you cannot be affaid of saying it. Otherwise have fun :D
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Oh believe me, we talk about it. We've done everything but sex and we both pag-ibig to talk about it. He is over sensitive about hurting me though... Like, if his finger goes in at a kinda pinching angle, you'd think he was the one who got hurt! Haha :) We do have condoms and I was put on the pill 4 months nakaraan for PMS. And believe me, we are beasts at foreplay. And I do think we're ready, if it ends up we're not, then we're there for eachother. We've talked about that too :)
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it looks like you guys are ready then :)
lilith84 posted sa loob ng isang taon na ang nakalipas
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Thankies:) I pag-ibig him... I really do. And I can say that because I told him I don't wanna say it til i'm absolutely sure
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jbforme said:
WAIT, YOUR BOYFRIEND? NO, NO, NO! WAIT UNTIL MARRIAGE BECAUSE LOSING YOUR VIRGINTY BEFORE MARRIAGE IS A AWFUL! P.S DON'T GET MARRIED EARLY JUST SO YOU CAN SLEEP WITH EACH OTHER. THATS MY OPINION.
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I don't agree with marriage. I don't wanna ever get married.
LoveforSeverus posted sa loob ng isang taon na ang nakalipas
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marriage is overrated, besides, you need to test the potential candidates before you decide to spent the rest of your life with one of them.
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not everyone has to get married. I'm in a relationship for 7 years now and we have decided not to get married. I am not in the least interested in wedding bands and crap like that.
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germany123 said:
you're being responsible, you guys seem to be in a stable relationship, you have thought aboot the pros and cons- normally i would say go for it. yeah i am european so i dont get the whole OMG WAIT TILL YOU ARE MARRIED thing.
the only thing i would argue is that youre obviously not sure. if you were you wouldnt have to ask peoples advice. and thats my only argument really...you're not sure so wait.
i wouldnt wait until you get married or have reached a certain age thats deemed "acceptable" i would till you -withoot a doubt- say "yes" rather than "uh maybe not sure"

(and yes i am a non-virgin...and i am not married :P *GASP*)



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Haha, well I think I'm totally ready but people keep telling me about emotional consequences and so I just really was curious if I'd get that. Btw Ich leibe Deutschland!
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LadyLilith said:
Grrr, I sent it to you. =_=;; Fanpop was being a douche and cutting my stuff off because it was too long. Ask me about it if anyone else is interested~
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And again, I apologize if it does not help at all. ;;; Just if you have questions, please ask and I will answer and help out the best I can~
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