Give me you payo

About a taon ago, my best friend since first grade dropped me like I was a hot potato. I stood up for her several times because she was being called ugly and nerdy sa pamamagitan ng girls who were supposedly her friends- nowadays those are the people she hangs out with. I was so miserable because I felt like it was my fault and that I did something wrong. I tried asking if she was angry with me, but she always replied with, "No, why would you think that?" After a couple months, we didn't even make eye contact with each other. She turned her back on me and I was absolutely crushed- I even lashed out at my mother, who had done nothing, because she brought her up. The best thing anyone can do in a situation like that is ilipat on, which is exactly what you're trying to do. Making mga kaibigan isn't easy- it takes time and dedication. What you need to do is listen to conversations around you. If the people involved are talking about something you're interested in, you sumali the conversation without a segundo thought. It can be hard, but it works out in the long run. Even if they completely reject you, it's better to have tried and failed than to not try at all. The biggest thing about making mga kaibigan is persistence- keep trying to find someone you have common interests with, but don't be annoying. I always make mga kaibigan sa pamamagitan ng making terrible puns; it almost always works. But you need to remember to be yourself, and keep your values in mind. Let's say you value not smoking, and your potential mga kaibigan are trying to offer you a cigarette. Friendship is all about being able to be yourself with people who are close to you. If you have to put on a mask in order to hang out with your 'friends' then you need to rethink your priorities, and remember who YOU want to be, not who your mga kaibigan want you to be.

To sum it up:

1. Persistence is key- there's absolutely no guarantee that someone is going to immediately ask you to be their BFF. In fact, the first time you try joining a conversation, they'll probably completely ignore you. But that doesn't mean you should give up.

2. Be yourself, and no one else- Real mga kaibigan will pag-ibig you no matter what you do or believe in. It's so incredibly important that you remember what YOU as an individual want. If being mga kaibigan with someone keeps you from being truly happy and shining as bright as you should, you're in a poisonous relationship.

3. Remember that mga kaibigan will come and go- Nothing lasts forever, I've learned that the hard way. What matters most is that you keep all the memories =, not just the good ones, and learn from your past relationships and mistakes. It might take some time, but sooner or later, you'll look back and thank that person for ipinapakita their true colors- if they hadn't, you probably would have ended up hurt even more.