This isn't really something that happens that often. No offense AudreyFreak, but the woman embracing her sexuality is what gets scorned more. Bella Thorne for example, is just showing more leg than she did when she was 17, since she's now 18, but isn't doing anything truly trashy like Miley Cyrus or Nicki Minaj, but was called a whore just because she wore really short shorts. Being modest doesn't mean you're square, repressed, or a prude, it just means you're more comfortable with a certain style. Being comfortable with showing more skin doesn't mean you're objectifying yourself or are a slut or aren't a virgin that's planning to stay a virgin until their wedding night, they just feel sexy and want the world to know they're comfortable with it. Neither one should be scorned for it and if they're comfortable with it and aren't doing anything harmful, they should be given support for embracing what they feel comfortable with.

I've been told many times by own parents that I must not love myself because I refuse to wear short shorts, bandage dresses, crop tops, or yoga parents. My own dad said something like, "Most girls your age like to show off their bodies. You must hate yours for dressing like that. Your sister is an extreme though''. Keep in mind I was wearing jeans and a cute sleeveless top. Then what is considered normal huh? Thanks a lot dad. Sorry there's something wrong with me for not wanting to show my ass or tits, and want the attention on my face. Also there's a lot of cute modest clothes. I guess it's either dressing like a nun or proactive in my parent's eyes.

Can't please everyone. You're either a 'whore' or a 'prude'.

No offense KL, but as a woman I've definitely got this more now than when I ever wore short shorts and bikinis in public, and plenty of other women do too. I don't appreciate my experience being invalidated just because it's a less acceptable one, either. I don't know if people insult what you wear but guys are usually not the ones getting told what they wear is wrong (but they shouldn't either, and I think their own body issues are ignored too much) so I do know what I'm talking about a little here as a girl. people defend sexy dressing all the time and say it isn't objectification (it is, even if unintentional) or compliment her choice. people who don't support it are usually the ones people turn on. they seem to take it as a personal attack. Rebecca St. James is a Christian artist and makes some good points about this. I recommend looking her up.

anywho, I said nothing about what gets scorned "more" but I don't see many people defending this way. even if it did, why does that make it a less valid problem? and I agree with uploaded, I've heard similar stuff. it's gotten to the point that straight jeans and a t-shirt are "frumpy" now! I'm sorry your dad thinks that way. Maybe you should ask what exactly he thinks a happy medium is.

No tbh because ton of them are actually prude. Embracing modesty is one thing. And if they choose to do it then okay BUT trying to force your beliefs on others regardless on what spectrum you fall under is wrong and alot of people who are so called old-fashioned modest tend to do that. Not all but alot. Of course that is in my experience.

What MalloMar said.

@blind why is it bad if someone is "actually prude"

live and let live

i mena ppl should just do whatever they want its not like its hurting anybody so

Our society is way too obsessed with sex, imo. People are actually expecting for teenagers to already have sex when they're 15 or something and will look on weirdly if you're still a virgin after school. I've seen this happen way more than the whole "slut" thing. Girls who are modest/are virgins are bullied and treated like infants because they haven't "grown up" yet, it's basically insulting.

@tamore do believe I explained why. I do not give ONE single fuck if someone is prude. Along as they leave me and others who want to do whatever they want alone. It doesn't annoy me when overly modest women get bashed. Because most of them tend to bitch about what's too risque instead of focusing what they need to do.

That is why prude women and men bother me because they tend to do exactly that. if there's prude women that don't more power to them. And I won't insult them for being like that anyways. But the second they bother me and others for literally living their life. That is when I get on their case.

I honestly think they get what they deserve generally. if they wanna bitch about someone's else life and slut shame etc let them get backlash for the things they do.

And here we have a basic example of virgin-shaming. How is slut-shaming bad but mocking people who haven't had sex is seen as a good thing?

@Blind but you still chose "no" which means you're making an assumption that all "prude" women are bitchy, and I don't think that's true / even if it is, it's still not okay to attack the entire group for being modest.

thank you for illustrating my point beautifully, Bandit. I think I'll C&P your comment and ad 'slut' to 'prude' and put it on KL's poll to see how people react to make a point.

@BlindBandit I don't think stooping to someone's level is the best way to handle it, whether if it's someone who dresses sexy bashing modest women or a modest woman bashing a woman who dresses sexy. Two wrongs don't make a right. Both groups have shamed the other and those who do that are in the wrong. Someone should be allowed to dress however they want as long as they're not hurting anyone. I'd also like to point out that I know plenty of women who dress revealing that are still virgins and I know plenty of women that dress modest that aren't virgins (or married for that matter). It's just showing how society is judging each other for how they look instead of who they are on the inside. Couldn't we all just respect people's right to dress the way they do and judge them or bash them. Dressing sexy isn't objectifying ones self, it's the behavior they do with it that determines if they objectify themselves. Dressing modest isn't being a prude or rigid, it how they behave themselves or act around others that think or dress differently that determine it.

@AudreyFreak Please don't stoop to the same level. Yes, what Bandit said was really closed-minded and offensive. But please be the bigger and more mature person. Two wrongs don't make a right.

@tamore I NEVER said that read what I said. I said if someone is a prude and do NOT bother others for it. I will not bother them or ridicule them. IF THEY DO THEY DESERVE every bit of the insults coming their way. I wouldn't care less. @KL i am not being offensive at all. I simply said if someone is modest and bitchy they deserve it. if they aren't bitchy then they don't. Please explain to me how that was insulting in any way. I specificially SAID people who are wrongly bothered should NOT get that treatment. You guys took it way OUT of context. At point I couldn't care less if you agree with me or against me. The fact of my point is clear. NO ONE should be wrongly treated BUT if that person was a bitch in the beginning they deserve whatever is coming. If anyone of you dislike my opinion so be it. But do not attempt to change it. it will not happen at all. @Audrey Idk how much I can stress about how much of a moron you are. You read part of my post and proceed to spread your idiotic opinion. Good job halfway reading it. >.>

And it's not two wrongs dont make a right. I am completely indifferent if someone bitchy gets ridiculed. That goes if someone is NOT modest. if someone is promiscuous and bitchy I"D solely judge them ONLY being bitchy and nothing else. I am not committing any wrong. I smply do not give one single shit if someone is bitchy gets ridiculed regardless of how their mentality is. I AM NOT singling OUT modest women. AT ALL.


The poll ask does it annoy me. It reality it does NOT annoy me. I am more indifferent to it then the flipside of the argument. I AM ONLY ANNOYED if said person did nothing to deserve it. if that person is modest and did nothing to deserve it. Hell yea I'd be mad. BUT unless I know that prior. it does not bother me that much.
Do not give me your white and black morality and expect me to follow it. I will not follow it at all. I will follow my own and no one elses.
If you're going to debate with me. I at least expect whoever to counter my argument to properly address it.

I agree with Scarletunicorn, I guess.

I never knew this was a thing, but wow, that overreaction towards Blind's response lol.

The question being "Does it annoy you-" then I'll pick no. I'm rarely annoyed :L

I feel like this isn't as much of a priblem. But if it was it'd be annoying. But it's equally as annoying if someone gets mad over the opposite. Bottom line I think that people should just let people do what they want with their bodies so long as it doesn't infringe on anyone else.