ooooo hmmmmm I can't phrase a option how i see it

i don't think people are born gay, it has been theorized that some people might be born with gay tendencies but so far i have seen no convincing evidence so say this for definite

i also don't think it's a choice though, i think your sexuality is something that is linked with you and is effected by your surroundings and people that influence you, like your personality

it really truly sickens me that some people think they can try change gay people or "pray away the gay" you might as well try get me to pray to god for me to black, personally i don't give a dam about religious freedoms when these camps come in to it, they should be should down under charges of emotional and mental cruelty to humans

It depends on how the brain starts reacting on male and female smells and stuff. One part of the brain turns on the female stuff and another one on the male stuff. Some men turn on the men stuff and I think that they can't help it. But it may have something to do with their childhood. - FX if they played with dolls and if they were close friends with girls and wanted to do the same stuff as them. And also if they were thought to do something very feminine.

I can't see how when you are born you are destined to love only males or females

They definatly aren't born gay. It's totally their choice ( personally I say the wrong choice) but it's a choice.

I just think it's more like a lifestyle or a different taste. If you like red color better than blue, you can't make yourself like blue better, but time can change it.
I think people should really let them live their own lives. If boys feel happier kissing boys and girls kissing girls, it's their own choice. Who are we to tell them how to live?

All my gay friends say it's just who they are, so I guess "being born gay" is the best response I have to this. I don't really care how it happens, as long as people are true to themselves and don't try to deny what they are just to please society.

Gay people don't choose to be homosexual, and believing that it is a choice like veganism or changing your name is ridiculous.

Alright well I don't normally comment on this spot but I'm going to. How can anyone say it is a choice? In the past, and even the present, homosexuals have been killed, tortured, ridiculed, mocked and all other manners of unpleasant things simply because of who they are attracted to and people honestly think that someone would choose that?

Various animals and people since the dawn of time have had homosexual liasons, it's not a choice. Can anyone honestly say they woke up one morning and said, "I choose to be straight", no, it's just who you are.

Realizing that you like the same sex can be the hardest thing anyone ever has to go through in life. Afraid that your parents and friends will hate you, afraid you might end up killed by people who hate you for no other reason then your different then what someone thousands of years ago decided was 'normal', and just wanting to be like everyone else. Hundreds of teens every year kill themselves because of it.

I think it's just biological.

Sexuality is developed, but it doesn't mean that homosexuality is a choice. Just as nobody is born as a pubescent teenager.

You can't control who you fall in love with.

Can I also just say, I take umbrage at the phrase "see gays around them and decide they want to be like that." It's not a fad, or something that people want to be, like a professional football player or a rock star. Words and phrases like that I feel trivialize all the pain my friends (and, to a small extent myself) went through when coming to terms to their sexuality.

And I will state, once again, how ignorant I feel it is for some one who isn't gay to assume they know what it is like for someone who is.

Saying that being gay is a choice implies that the speaker at one point in his life chose to be straight. In my opinion, the only people who should weigh in on whether or not being gay is a choice are the LGBT community, and let me tell you, representing them, the majority of them will tell you that they don't choose who they're attracted to.

It's as simple as this: You are a teenage boy. There are two girls. One is a brunette with dark eyes, the other is a blonde with green eyes. You like the brunette, but not the blonde. Can you help it, if you don't like the blonde? Can you help being attracted to the brunette? Did you choose not to like the blonde? Honestly, did you?

maybe people with gay tendencies but heterosexual people I dont think so

But no one really knows unless YOU YOURSELF are gay. any straight person can't say what someone else is like. I think you can help who you like, it shouldn't be about looks but personality.
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It sort of a fad because if there were no footballers who would want to be a footballer. (People who dared to dream). So you are saying that everyone is born BI/nothing.

Of course. People grow up, look around, see gay people and want to be like that.
Why? Because the story of Matthew Sheperd is SO attracting? Because the fact that lots of people say it's unnatural, a sin, disgusting, vile etc, and you like people to say such things to you?

(for those who don't know who Matthew Sheperd is, look it up! The movie is on fanpop I believe)

In most country's you can't marry, you can't have children (adoption is not that easy when you're gay and unmarried), why would people choose something that is so hard? It does not make any sense.

I read the story of Cinders friend who is gay and really struggled with it and I kept thinking: why do people believe anyone would choose that?
I heard this question many times, but I never saw an answer from those who believe it to be a choice.
So I'll ask it again. To those who believe homosexuality to be a choice: Why do you believe people choose it?

Because they like men/women

If you really loved someone you would go through all that for them

O.K.
So you're saying that people choose to be gay, in other words to love people of the same gender, because they love people of the same gender?

Am I missing something?:S

Yeah. I think :S

I'm saying people aren't born gay but they love people of the same gender because that's what they like

I'm sorry but that makes no sense.

You say:
'No, they grow up and see gays around them and decide they want to be like that'
So they CHOOSE to be gay, to like people of the same gender.

And you say:
'I'm saying people aren't born gay but they love people of the same gender because that's what they like'

How can you make the choice to love people of the same gender, based on the fact that you love people of the same gender?
This is like saying people choose to be a firefighter because they already are a firefighter.

You are REALLY CONFUSING ME!!

It's like liking chocolate ice cream because everyone else like chocolate ice cream. If that's all you know then that's you would like. Different people have different preferences I know but if there was no such thing as being gay. Who would be? The only reason men like men and women like women is because someone else decided that's what I like. If that person hadn't nobody would know gays. Like if football had never been invented then no one would want to be a footballer.

I understand you say that people choose to be gay and therefor there are gays. However you say they choose to be gay based on the fact they already are gay, which does not make sense.

'The only reason men like men and women like women is because someone else decided that's what I like. If that person hadn't nobody would know gays.' Would you care to elborate on this, I'm not really sure what you mean.

no one invented sexuality it has been like this since the begining of time :S

I like the ice cream analogy though
If you like chocolate, you can't help liking it, it's not a choice technically you can chose vanilla but you won't be happy

However you say they choose to be gay based on the fact they already are gay,

I really don't know when i have said that

It's more like never having peanut butter until you are 12. Then you see someone eating peanut butter, and you try it, and enjoy a lot. And can't imagine going back to chocolate spread. Because you realise peanut butter is the one for you. ANd you now hate chocolate spread.

I asked why people would choose to be gay when it's so hard and you said: 'Because they like men/women.'

And then a post later you said:
'I'm saying people aren't born gay but they love people of the same gender because that's what they like'

And you picked 'No, they grow up and see gays around them and decide they want to be like that'.

So according to what you picked you think homosexuality is a choice but in the two examples I just quoted, you said that choice is made because they like people of the same gender. But that would mean they are already gay when making the choice.

No, it would be saying they like men and women because it's what they know to like

As for the peanut butter analogy: I don't think this is a good analogy at all. When you never had peanut butter, you don't know what you are missing. You'll be quite content with chocolate spread.
Homosexuals however will not be happy in a relationship with someone of the opposite sex, even if they don't know any better. They won't be able to truly fall in love with that other person, something will always be missing. The relationship will not be good for both persons involved.

i've heard of people that were gay and then they became christians and they are straight now...
soo..

c´mon man that is just dumb

or brain washing

It is brainwashing. "Pray The Gay Away" camps are disgusting.

I have to say, dsdsdrsf, I'm a little confused on what you're saying myself. Do you mean that people who are gay have the choice on whether or not to act on their feelings? Well, yes, that's true. We all have the choice of whether or not to act on our feelings. But being gay is not a fad. It's not the cool thing to do, it's not something people necessarily want for themselves, it's just something that they are. Like being particularly tall, or being a certain skin color. You cannot control your emotions, or your sexuality. You can choose to act on it, but like debs said, if you choose vanilla and you don't like vanilla, you'll eat it, but you won't be happy.

The reason I have an issue with the choice you made is because the phrasing makes it sound so trivial, like people would want to be gay like they would want to be an Olympic medal winner. Although after much thought, I think what you meant was, "A person is attracted to someone of their own sex and chooses to act on it." Am I wrong?

I didn't kiss my first girlfriend because it was the thing to do, or because I wanted to be cool. I did it because, dammit, she was hot, and adorable, and sweet, and I just thought she had great, kissable lips. I kissed my first boyfriend for similar reasons.

The fact of the matter is, "gay" is not a choice, it's not a fad, and it's not something people do just because they see other people doing it.

I refer you to reason number two in the "ten reasons why gay marriage is wrong" link: "Gay marriage will encourage people to be gay, in the same way that hanging around tall people will make you tall."

carly don't tell people that or i will get loads of midgets hanging around me ;P


if any of you Politically correct shorties out there want me to say "short people" or "small people" then bite me, if you can call me a giant, i can call you a midget

MY first reaction to this is: why does it matter?

This whole question implies there is something wrong with being gay, when there isn't.

And as to this: i've heard of people that were gay and then they became christians and they are straight now...

Man, do not even get me started. If you believe that shit, you're an idiot.

I think that It has a lot to do with the enviroment where you are raced, your personality and specially your personal experiences.

i can't see why anyone would choose to be part of a minority group that's under/gets a lot of pressure/threat/abuse. i think your born gay, straight or bi-sexual.

its known that most gay/les couples are what they are by getting abused by some one in the chiled hood. or in the dating life that they dont wanna be in love with the opisite sex. Most boys becoem gay because there mom or a girlfriend has doen some thing so bad they wont forget it. And most girls become lesbions because of a boyfriend that has done somthing to them the will never get over. Im not sure if thats all true but its what I herd. I also beleive you just fall in love with who you fall in love with

"its known that most gay/les couples are what they are by getting abused by some one in the chiled hood"

Cite your source. Other than hearsay, what studies support this?

"Im not sure if thats all true but its what I herd."

Heard it from where? You can't say something like a fact if you don't know that it is.

I'm very active in the LGBT community, and several people I know were abused because they were gay. Verbally, even physically beaten, because of their sexuality. Not the other way around.

For those who are saying that it's a choice, may I ask you a question?

Here it is; Did you truly choose to love the opposite sex, or no?

i see hott girls all the time that i enjoy spending time with but im not going 2 date them.

I suppose "being born that way" is the closest I can get to explaining how I see this.

I'm straight. I've always been straight. I didn't make any decision to be straight, and I can't change the fact I'm straight. I've yet to meet a heterosexual who chose to be so. Why would I think any other sexuality would be different?

People aren't born with automatic sexual attraction from day 1, it develops as we go thru life. You'll know when it happens (or doesn't happen *coughasexualcough*) tho.

I don't think that people are born with sexual attraction but I also don't think that people choose who they are attracted to when they do start to feel it. I say this because I never developed sexual attraction.