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I need help! Should I stay or leave?

I wouldn't ask for anyones help or opinion I wouldn't waist your time. But I need some opinions please

Long story short so I met a guy online. He lives in texas and i pag-ibig in denver. We've exchanged pictures, talked on the phone, played online with him, We Skyped. I grew fond of him and we've developed a really strong friendship. I planed to fly down after I tured 18 in July. He has everything all set up for me to fly down or take a bus. But here the problem.... my parents refuse to let me take this trip. They have called me every name and the book and that I'm selfie and brain washed. I've planed to come back I'm not leaving forever. Only a week in July to see if we click. My parents have told me if I leave they will disown me I will not be accepted sa pamamagitan ng then back if for some reason him and I don't "click".

Should I go against there wishes and go anyway because it's what I want.

Do I obey what they sinabi because if I take this risk and it doesn't work I will have no family left.

Please leave your full opinion. Be blunt Lol I need a new perspective thank you so much.
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Why are they hating this? Have a rational conversation with them. What are their reasons?
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I have 100% tried having a rashional conversation they haven't met him there for its not okay.
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There afraid of losing the person that cooks and cleans for them it's not just worried about my safety
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greyswan618 said:
Why can't he come to you?Tell him the situation with your parents and see what he says.If he agrees to come down to you then ask if maybe your parents can meet him to see what he's like in person to see if you are compatible and maybe or maybe not they will let you visit him after you turn 18.
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That is a good point.
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I hope I am not too late to put in my opinion - I have to say that even though you don't believe that your parents are concerned about your safety, there is still a very strong concern about a young female going to meet a man for the first time. It is best that he comes to meet you, your parents and others that pag-ibig you. Let them check him out etc. There have been so many cases where women have been placed in danger sa pamamagitan ng meeting a man the way he is proposing. If he does not agree - then you know there is something amiss and you would be ligtas not meeting him ever.
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Rihanna312 said:
Well, I`d say a lot depends on how old you both are. Maybe you are too young to travel like this alone and you parents are just worried. But if you are old enough and maybe have traveled somewhere alone before, I think you should talk to them and explain everything again.
They probably just are worried that the guy is not what he tells to be. With all those stories about catfishing online. You could also let them have a short convo with him over skype, so they see that he isn`t some creepy 50+yo weirdo.
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I'm 18 lol. No I haven't traveled anywhere before but I have worked in fast pagkain at a truck stop. They have there mind set but I will discuss with them again and again until I chose to leave or figure out a plan em your absolutely right but they have other kids they have met people online and they were who they sinabi they were. I'm the last of there kids so they have alot of expectations. Thank you so much I will definitely consider the Skype =]
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TheLefteris24 said:
How long have you been knowing this person? Are you that confident about the trust both of you have built in the meanwhile? If you feel that everything concerning this trip is safe, then feel free to do it. Concerning your parents, did you talked it out with them? Sitting down and having a conversation about the Friendship you share with the person you want to visit can go a long way. If you have done that and they still refuse to let you go, how about taking them with you or introduce your Friend to them through Skype? They just seem to be pretty worried for you and it is only natural since quite a few cases of meeting through the Web didn't end well. You sinabi that you have turned 18 but that means you only just now legally reached adulthood. To a Parent, their Kids will always been seen as such. Those threats are only an indication of their fear. I wouldn't place much thought on them. I would suggest to take some time and try to work out things with them as best as you can. If things are just as genuine as they seem, they will realize it. Your Friend might wait a bit but I am sure he will respect that. You have all the time in the World to meet him. Especially since you two have developed a strong bond as you sinabi !!!!
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Not everyone is bluffing with the disowning man. Some people are serious. You probably shouldn't tell people they might not mean it because quite often people do and people generally don't throw out disowning as a threat.
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^ I told her not to worry sick about it. Not disregard it completely. The fact that they used such a threat over a matter like this is an indication of how much they worry about her. That is how it comes across to me. Personally, I have seen disowning being a pretty common form of Persuasiveness. The possibility of being a bluff still exists. Regardless, things need to be worked out with her parents. A point like that can be pretty easily avoided sa pamamagitan ng following one of the possible solutions that has been proposed in here or finding something other way of her own !!!!
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I'm glad if I could help in any way possible. You're welcome !!!!
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BlindBandit92 said:
Aside from potentially being disowned. You might want to also reaffirm that he's an okay guy because there's been instances where guys and girls met people online and it did not go the way they planned at all.

Otherwise if you do take the trip maybe ask your siblings to allow you to take if they disown you? I am sorry I don't really have advise for you as I have not been in this situation.
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I've been talking to them asking and asking and explaining. And I do know that about guys and girls meeting online sometimes people just don't get along. I will definitely consult my siblings before I leave there just gunna talk me out of it tho lol. uy payo is payo I very much appreciate it alot
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^NO it's not just not getting alone some people kidnap people online. You need to be careful who you meet.
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^Alright np
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